Are you bored, stuck or need some excitement in life? Do you feel like time is running out and it’s time to do something new or fun? Do you want to be less careful in life and just go for it? Are you at least 45 years old?
Warning! You may be on the brink of a mid-life crisis!
Surveys say that when you hit middle age (i.e. 45-60yrs), you start to view life through a different lens. Instead of building a future, progressing in your job, or parenting a family, you begin to consider your mortality and how many healthy years you have left. This is normal and healthy. I like to call it a mid-life evaluation.
The risk of a crisis occurs if you make sinful decisions during the evaluation. A mid-life crisis can have a devastating impact on you, those around you, and your relationship with Jesus.
So how can you avoid a mid-life crisis?
1. Don’t Panic
1 Timothy 6:6 – But godliness with contentment is great gain.
God wants all of us to find our contentment in Jesus rather than our circumstances. When mid-life hits, a sense of discontentment occurs. Left unchecked, this can lead to making important decisions that are rooted in feelings, fear, or panic rather than wisdom and God’s word. This can even progress to a level where you can make sinful choices and they make sense and even seem rational. This happens when you are operating from a place of fear and panic rather than faith and contentment.
This is why it is so important that you embrace mid-life and live for the future rather than trying to look back and live in the past. God created the mid-life years to be enjoyed in a way that is unique to any other time in life. So relax! Don’t panic! Don’t make quick decisions! The best is yet to come.
2. Monitor Your Motives
Jeremiah 17:9-10 – The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?“I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve.”
So often during mid-life, there is a temptation to rationalize sinful ideas or decisions. The deception first starts with sinful motives. A mid-life crisis occurs by ultimately acting on sinful thoughts and motives. Therefore, the only way to avoid a crisis is to monitor your motives. The way to do this is to prayerfully bring your struggles and feelings of discontentment to the Lord.
God will search your heart and reveal to you any hidden sinful motives if you ask Him. Always test yourself by answering “why” you want to do something. When you go to the Lord with a transparent heart, humbly seeking His will, you are protecting yourself from yourself and preventing a mid-life crisis.
3. Let Others Speak Into Your Life
Hebrews 10:24-25 – And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
One of the biggest mistakes made during a mid-life evaluation is to privatize and avoid talking about it. There is a denial and embarrassment that can take place, causing a shutdown. It is important you push through this and share your thoughts and feelings with other godly Christians, asking for insight and feedback. This could be sharing with a friend, your spouse, or a pastor. Either way, this is a critical step of protection, making sure you aren’t fooling yourself. The sooner you talk about your mid-life evaluation with others, the sooner you prevent a crisis.
Mid-life doesn’t have to be a dead-end mundane time in life. It can be exciting and a time when you experience new blessings and joy like never before. But it’s up to you whether you make it a crisis or not.
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