No one likes being around someone who goes on and on about their life and never stops talking. You know the type that pushes you to the point where you want to say, “Shut up! Stop talking!”
This kind of person is hard to be around so we usually try to avoid them. Are you one of those people? How can you be sure? Here are a couple of ways to prevent becoming that non-stop talker.
1. Recognize It’s a Problem
Proverbs 10:19 – When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.
Talking too much can be a risky proposition and rooted in a lack of wisdom. Our words can have a powerful impact on others and we need to be aware of the risk. The more you talk, the riskier conversations can become, leading to gossip, hurtful comments, and discounting others. It is important to understand that non-stop talking is rooted in self-centeredness and it devalues others. God wants us to get outside of ourselves and value others more than ourselves, therefore it is important to be aware of our “blab factor” and keep it under control.
Non-stop talkers are usually unaware of how they are boring the listener, otherwise, they would shut up. One of the best ways to make an accurate assessment of yourself is to monitor your air time. During your conversations pause and ask yourself who is doing all the talking? If it’s you, back it down. Another way to make sure you aren’t hugging yourself is to ask a family member or close friend if you talk too much. Be sure to tell them to be honest!
2. Practice Being a Good Listener
James 1:19 – My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak…
The primary way to keep your blab factor under control is to practice being a good listener. When you are talking you are not listening and visa versa! Being quick to listen will help you shut up. One practical step to becoming a good listener is to ask questions. This will prevent you from talking too much and show you value what others have to say.
It is important when you ask questions that you listen to the whole answer and fight the temptation to interrupt. Non-stop talkers will often ask questions, all the while thinking of what their response is going to be, resulting in taking back and dominating the conversation. One way to avoid this temptation is to practice asking multiple questions in a row. This way you have to continue to listen before weighing in.
Everyone likes a good listener and the more you practice asking questions, the more people will want to talk with you. If you find this hard at first, then you are probably a non-stop talker. So don’t give up, stick with it and practice, practice, practice!
As you step into the process of shutting up, it might feel like a discipline, but remember you are growing and maturing in an area that is important to God and those around you!
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I will shut up now!