Do you want to have great sex? Who doesn’t? There are lots of ideas out there about how to improve your sex life. Check the magazine rack at your local supermarket and you’ll see what I mean. Sex is a hot topic in today’s world and yet it seems to be a silent topic in the Christian world. Why? Doesn’t it make sense to consult manufacturers on the best way to use their product? So why not consult God on sex since He created it?
Makes sense to me, so I thought I would share three ways to have great sex according to God:
1. Keep it Between a Husband & Wife
Genesis 2:24 – For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
It is obvious from a physical and emotional standpoint that God created man and woman as sexual beings. When God created sex, it was within the context of marriage and reserved for marriage. Any sex outside of marriage was not God’s design and will result in harmful and lasting consequences.
This is easily observed by all the sexual abuse, STDs, unwanted pregnancies, emotional and psychological damage we see today. To have great sex is to keep it reserved for a marriage relationship between a husband and wife.
2. Make it Enjoyable
Song of Solomon 1:13-16 – My lover is to me a sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts. My lover is to me a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi. How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant.
The Song of Solomon reads like a romance novel and highlights the enjoyment and sexual intimacy that is taking place between a husband and wife. It is no secret that sex feels good. Given that God created sex to feel good, means he wants us to enjoy it.
Sex within marriage is to be enjoyed, intimate, and fun… not guilt-ridden, silent, or endured. This usually speaks to a history of sexual misuse or abuse. Since God wants sex to be enjoyed, the more a husband and wife work toward that end, the better it will be.
3. Use it To Start a Family
Genesis 1:27-28 – So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.
Sex is a miraculous activity by which humanity exists today. Sex is not only for enjoyment but also for having kids, building families, and establishing a culture. The logic is simple. If God created men and women to get married and have sex that ultimately leads to getting pregnant. God must want husbands and wives to have kids! So before you shut down the idea of having children, recognize the ultimate purpose and end-game of great sex… kids! Great sex is more than a great feeling, it includes the miracle of life. Make sure you include it as well!
Instead of buying that magazine with the “top five ways to improve your sex life”, consider buying into God’s top three list for great sex… Marriage, Enjoyment, and Family. Anything else won’t be great!
Disclaimer: I recognize this topic can get complicated with many issues to work through. In order to keep this blog post to a reasonable length, I will defer these issues to future posts.
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